Stepmoms: Fear vs. Exhilaration

9 03 2011

Gay Hendricks once said to me: The difference between fear and exhilaration is breath. When you’re afraid your breathing gets stuck high up in your chest. If you take it down deep into your belly, it changes the fear into something that can move–more like the feeling of exhilaration you get when you’re skiing or riding a roller coaster. I remember that advice often around my work but it applies equally well to stepfamily life.

Any time you need to step up as an authority figure in your house and you’re afraid to do it. Any time you are jealous of a stepchild because you fear he/she is more loved than you will ever be. Any time you are nervous to go to an event because you know the ex is going to be there. Any time you are afraid to speak your truth: BREATHE.



4 responses

10 03 2011

I think this is a great way to look at things, and something good to remember all the time. Remembering to take deep breaths is quite helpful too, sometimes it gives you the calm you need in the moment. 🙂 Thanks for advice

11 03 2011
La Madrastra

…and if that doesn’t work, try chocolate. Seriously. 😉

16 03 2011
yaa asantewaa

thank you! i felt like a witch, being jealous of a teenaged daughter!

22 03 2011

Amen to that! I feel so ridiculous at times…glad to see I am not completely alone. ❤

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